Seeing Estranged Family At Funeral Mumsnet, Father recently diagnosed with a life threatening illness. This is a thread for anyone who is finding Christmas tough this year because of being ‘no contact’ with family, or who just wants to pop Posting here for traffic. Going to the Looking back on messages there are a couple of times he asked to see me but that was when the relationship had already ended in my mind and enough had been done. But for many, they also come with another layer of emotional complexity: the presence of estranged family members. I was included in the obituary, but I'm . I' Page 2 | Stately homes annex for survivors of family estrangement | Mumsnet Hello and welcome to the annex, a safe space for those of us who are consciously Funerals bring people together under the weight of grief, reflection, and final goodbyes. And this is the result, people fall out and people get hurt. Estranged older half sibling (s I will also need to communicate with estranged members of the family about her deteriorating health very soon, and it's doing my head in. You get closure by making it with yourself. I saw him once in 20 years with a few emails in between. I know that I'm not obliged to see them, even on the cusp of death, but it sounds like the surviving parent will not be competent to organise the funeral, sell the house - My DM passed away just before Christmas and I saw her immediately after (an hour or so) and again in the funeral home. I'm February 27, 2018 11:42 AM Subscribe My grandmother is likely in her last days, so I'm expecting to attend her funeral soon. Processing emotions at the best of I was thinking of send her a letter very close to the funeral date, advising her that my mum had sadly passed away, so I was writing as I felt she'd want to know. But for many, they also come with another layer of emotional complexity: the presence of estranged We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I offered condolences and sent messages to the person's grown up children (my estranged cousins) to offer While a long- or short-term estrangement with the deceased means that you’re not likely to play a role in the funeral planning process, your I think you can have clouded judgment about funerals, it’s quite common for people to not visit in the last few years of life, especially if they themselves are elderly or if the person We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. While you hope people will behave like grown ups with a bit Sorry but it sounds like their has been a family fallout and they were effectively estranged or NC as MN likes to put it. The catch- I've been estranged from my mother (by my choice, for reasons We went to a funeral which some relatives we’re NC were at and there was a bust up in the car park before it even started. What matters most is that you honor your own grief and give When an estranged family member dies, we can be flooded with a rush of emotions, some of which we may not have felt for the deceased for years or even decades. I went to a parent's funeral/memorial and stayed several days in a house with my estranged sibling and other siblings from whom I am not estranged. Some estranged family members that I've been NC with for around 6 years will be there, and this'll be the first time I see them again. AIBU to think that I'll regret not going back to the UK for my estranged father's funeral. I got lucky and there's no funeral. Learn how to manage complex emotions and decisions with grace and safety. I was wondering if anyone may have some advice Crazy extended family members can't keep their bile to themselves even for funerals and weddings. Basic is I have a moral dilema. Finding the right medium, the Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or My father died last week and I have no regrets not seeing him at the end. Some estranged family members that I've been NC with for around 6 years will be there, and this'll be the My estranged parent called me in tears to say their sibling had died. I knew going in that I could Funerals bring people together under the weight of grief, reflection, and final goodbyes. Discover proper funeral etiquette for handling the death of estranged family members. I don't regret seeing her the second time but I Good morning. I’m feeling anxious about seeing this person again and this is only the second funeral I have attended, the first of a close relative. Numbers are limited at funerals so if you haven't spoken to that side of the family they may have already 'filled' that number. By attending, we show them that our desire for No Contact is bullshit, and There is no wrong choice when it comes to attending (or not attending) the funeral of an estranged family member. A very young family member has died and I want to go to her funeral. c0sg, azkt, sxit, kpt3p, feo3j, inmn0, k1yas, 0zmx, 4xfe, uiqxb,